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Tony Curtis comes towards me in a wheelchair, wearing a white sleeveless T-shirt and very short white shorts. “Good to meet you,” he says. He takes my hand, brushes it with his lips and almost imperceptibly looks me up and down. At 83, despite baldness and a paunch, the legendary Hollywood Lothario still knows how to turn on the charm. He apologises for the wheelchair, which he needs following a bout of pneumonia in 2006 that has inexplicably affected his legs. “I can walk, just not very well.”
We’re in his living room in Henderson, a suburb of Las Vegas. It’s a nondescript suburban house with wall-to-wall windows overlooking a golf course and the Nevada desert, with the skyline of the Strip in the distance. Five tiny dogs yap at our feet. Jillie, his wife of 10 years, a statuesque blonde 46 years his junior, is at the kitchen counter on her computer. Huge canvases are propped up against every surface: enormous reclining nudes, still lifes of flowers, figurative but modern. “Are these all yours?” I ask. “Yes,” he says, proudly. “Let’s go to my studio.” He even makes that sound suggestive.
Curtis scoots across the floor using his bare feet instead of his hands as we step out into unseasonable rain caused by Hurricane Ike and into a small, light-filled room next to his house. We’re surrounded by canvases of Marilyn Monroe, sitting in the same pose, head turned away, laughing, in slightly different colours, all with slightly prominent nipples. His current study and his past life.
We’re here to talk about his autobiography, American Prince, a rollercoaster of a book in which he’s brutally frank about his childhood, his affairs, stardom, drug addiction, depression, women and sex. Lots and lots of sex. It’s a romp through Hollywood’s golden age, when Curtis, with his thick, black hair and cerulean eyes, practically invented celebrity as we know it.
But, curiously, before we get to the Hollywood glory and female conquests, he starts talking about the death of his brother, Julius, who was run over by a truck when he was nine years old. He’s still haunted by it. “It was a Friday,” Curtis recalls. “He wanted to hang with my gang but I was 13 and I told him to go play with his own friends. But he didn’t have his own friends. If I hadn’t hustled him away from me… ” His mother and father made him go alone to identify the body. “I didn’t know what they were asking me to do. But there he was. His head was so black and swollen I could only recognise him by a chip in his tooth… His death is still with me. There’s this feeling that anything can go wrong. You know, he was there one moment and then he was gone. I think of him every single day.”
I tell him that, after reading his book, I can’t work out if his life is blessed or cursed. “Well, on the one hand you could say I was tremendously blessed, on the other I was definitely cursed,” he says, without a hint of self-pity.
His childhood was Dickensian in its poverty, deprivation and violence, set in the tenement buildings of the Lower East Side of Manhattan. His parents were miserable with each other. His father was a gifted tailor, but he could never make enough money to satisfy his mother, later diagnosed as a schizophrenic, who could turn into a “holy terror”, beating both her sons at the slightest provocation. At school, when he could be bothered to go, he was beaten up for being Jewish. He still suffers from periods of crippling depression that began before his 10th birthday.
How did he survive it all, I ask, retaining such “exuberance for life”, as he calls it?
“Look,” he says, “I’m so privileged to be alive in this studio that happens to be mine. I’m 83 years old and I’m still a factor in this world, I still contribute wherever I go. It’s astounding. I could have been a politician or a brain surgeon. But I didn’t have an education, so there wasn’t anything I could do but get into the movies. And, boy, did I ever. To burst into the movies like I did. Isn’t that neat?” He grins, delighted with his glorious past.
In 1948, the day before his 23rd birthday, Bernie Schwartz signed his first contract with Universal, changed his name and became a celebrity almost overnight. For the next 10 years he was turning in an average of four pictures a year – many of them “sand-and-tits” films, as he calls them, with limited shelf life, but there were some gems. Trapeze, with Burt Lancaster, remains a classic, and he turned in a great performance as a sleazy press agent in Sweet Smell of Success. However late he partied with friends like Frank Sinatra and Marlon Brando, he always turned up on time and knew his lines. Early on, he decided he didn’t want to be known as “a mere actor”.
“I wanted to feel like a star. I wanted to get my footprints in Hollywood on the sidewalk, which I got. I wanted to be on the cover of all the magazines and go to parties in a limousine with a beautiful girl. I did all of that – and more. And I appreciate it. Every day I’m reminded of who I am. People stop me in the street all the time. Women love to see me – and I love to see them. I have an affinity for women, you know.”
“Affinity” is a tame euphemism for a voracious sexual appetite that feasted on literally hundreds of women (he has never counted). He married six of them, including the actress Janet Leigh, star of Hitchcock’s Psycho, with whom he had two daughters: Kelly, 52, and Jamie Lee, 49. He also slept with most of his co-stars, including Natalie Wood and Marilyn Monroe. Then there were the showgirls, the models, waitresses and Playboy bunnies. How did he keep it up?
He laughs. “It was love. I was falling in love every day. I am completely in love with women. Every woman. I loved their company and there was always a chance you could kiss them. I found kissing a very appealing experience,” he says, sounding oddly old-fashioned. “I was just always hoping for that conquest, hoping for that physical affection… that ejaculation.” He scoots his chair towards me until his eyes are three inches from mine. “I’m being very candid with you. What compelling eyes you have.” I’m beginning to feel like Little Red Riding Hood, so I bring up his mother. Was it because of the lack of affection from her? “Yes, yes, that had a lot to do with it. I got nothing from her. I got slapped around is what I got. But I liked to be with women. I never did it with dogs or elephants or men. Only with women.”
He claims he treated all his women well, that women genuinely liked him and that there was “nothing salacious in it”. Hollywood, he claims, was like that in those days. A male-orientated system where the producers would sign young girls on six-month contracts, put them up in apartments, have affairs with them and, when they got tired of them, refuse to renew their contracts. “These girls of 18 or 20 were fodder. All the guys at the studios, including myself, would feast on them, taking their sweetness. There were a lot of them. I don’t remember their names. Then they would go home and get married. Poor darlings. They came and went.” He doesn’t sound in the least bit regretful. “But if you were smart,” he adds, “there would be a part of you that nobody could touch.”
One of his first affairs in Hollywood was with the young Marilyn Monroe. “She was 19 and didn’t look anything like what she became. She had reddish-brown hair and her figure was not distinguished yet. Her bosoms weren’t what they were later and her legs were a little scrawny, but she was putting it all together. Don’t you see? Once she accepted she was a woman, then, look out, world. There was no guy that was safe. If she liked you, there was no man who could resist.”
In each other they found a kindred spirit. “You could tell she’d already been battered by life, and I found that she’d been in an orphanage, as I had, and that her mother was also schizophrenic. I loved her. And she loved me, but we both wanted to be in the movies, and that meant everything.”
They drifted apart, full of hunger to climb the star system. Whatever it took. “I even married Janet for my career,” he confesses. “I could see the two of us could get more attention together. We had the paparazzi wherever we went, we were on the cover of all the movie magazines. It wasn’t enough for a man to be cute, he had to be connected to the right woman.” Their marriage ended acrimoniously 11 years later. I ask if he regrets marrying for that reason. “No, no, no, not at all. I loved it. What better way to get famous?”
You should despise him, but there’s something endearing about his shameless admissions about sex and fame. He has a boyish enthusiasm for his meteoric trajectory. He was the “best-looking kid in town”, he says, adding: “It’s not what you have but what you do with it that counts.”
And he’s still star-struck. “I became great friends with all my co-stars. With Gregory Peck, Burt Lancaster, Jack Lemmon and Cary Grant… Cary Grant… Cary Grant.” He’s whooshed up to me again in his wheelchair, grabbed my hand and he’s holding his hand and mine against his heart. He’s gone all misty-eyed. He and Grant played together in Operation Petticoat, a second world war comedy set in a submarine, directed by Blake Edwards. “He could have picked anyone, but he allowed me the privilege to be in the movie with him. Jesus. To be in a movie with Cary Grant. The greatest movie actor of all time.”
Suddenly, he’s Bernie Schwartz again, the poor Jewish boy from the East Side of Manhattan whose only escape from misery was going to the movies. Then he could fight alongside Errol Flynn and rescue Olivia de Havilland and light cigarettes for Greta Garbo. Cary Grant taught him everything else. How to open a door for a girl, tip a cab driver, how to be tough and sensitive at the same time. He based his performance in Some Like It Hot on Grant and was thrilled when he pulled it off. “Meeting him was the best thing that ever happened to me,” he says. “He was the reason why I wanted to get into the movies – and that is all I ever wanted.”
Despite the fame, adulation and women, he never felt entirely comfortable in Hollywood.
“A lot of things that would have meant a lot to me were denied me by Hollywood. I didn’t speak properly. I spoke with a thick New York accent. Everyone knew my name was Schwartz – and Jews were not welcome.” He claims he suffered resentment from the Hollywood establishment for marrying a “shiksa goddess” in Janet Leigh. “Debbie Reynolds was the centre of gravity for a glitzy Caucasian crowd, and I could tell they didn’t appreciate me. They didn’t pick on you, they just ignored you. I couldn’t understand it.”
He was delighted to break the colour bar in The Defiant Ones with Sidney Poitier, a movie so far ahead of its time in 1958 that, he claims, Robert Mitchum turned it down, openly admitting he wouldn’t star with a black man. And, he quips, Marlon Brando wouldn’t do it unless he could play both parts. By contrast, Curtis insisted Poitier receive equal billing. They were both nominated for an Academy Award. “What were they going to do – split it in half? And I’d probably get the half that eats!” He chuckles, but it was his only nomination and he still regrets that he never won an Oscar.
Some Like It Hot in 1959 was his high point. “It was perfect. Great dialogue. Crisp acting. Billy Wilder was brilliant, and Jack Lemmon and I always had a great time together; even though we were from different backgrounds – he was Harvard-educated, very intelligent and urbane. We balanced each other out.” At that point he could tell that Marilyn was going off the rails, but they hung out together and their kissing scene was, he says, for real. He was alone in Europe when she died; he couldn’t talk about it because nobody knew they had had an affair. “Poor darlings, they’re all dead,” he muses. “Sinatra, Brando, Cary Grant. They’ve all gone.”
He has little time for the stars of today. He registers no recognition when I mention Leonardo di Caprio. “And Clooney?” He shakes his head. “And that Pitt fellow – whatshisname? He hasn’t got it either. Now, Robert Downey Jr – I think he might have something.”
Now he focuses on his art. He paints in his studio every day when he is in town and loves the opportunity his art shows give him to be with his “public”. “It’s rather nice not to be waiting for a script to come through the door, and even if it did, I would turn it down,” he says.
His past is all around him, in small cigar boxes that he’s turned into intriguing miniature three-dimensional collages. He has over 100 of them and they “speak” to him, so he’s loath to sell any. He scoots over to one – pushing me along in his office chair – of Leonardo da Vinci’s Vitruvian Man with sand and marbles in the bottom. Next to it is another with a small photograph of a young blond boy. “That’s Nicholas. My son who died.” I try to ask how he coped when Nicholas died of a drug overdose in 1994, at just 23, but he can barely speak. Then he shuttles us both towards one with a butterfly next to a porn star with enormous breasts. “I don’t know why but I find a similarity between butterfly wings and bosoms.” He confesses he likes “bosoms” large (38in and up) and hips “child-bearing”. It’s hard to get him off the subject of women for long, but he has finally found happiness with Jillie, his sixth wife, who rescues retired racehorses destined for the knacker’s yard. That’s where most of his money goes these days. “She’s the only one who didn’t want me to change after I married her.”
He claims he has learnt to “embrace” the depressions that continue to shadow him. “I’ve learnt to slow my brain down, step back and look at things from another direction.” The cocaine addiction that spiralled his life out of control in the 1980s turned into a positive spell at the Betty Ford clinic, when he finally slayed the demons of his childhood that no amount of fame, sex or money could cure. He forgave his mother, which he’d been unable to do when she died, refusing to visit her in hospital despite her constant pleas. “We could have all turned out like her. She cleaned houses in Hungary from when she was six or seven. She had no opportunities.” He says he has also made peace with his children (he’s had six, including Nicholas), and Jamie Lee, who was most vocal in her condemnation, has forgiven him for being an absent father. He’s not made peace with his ex-wives, however.
What does he miss? He goes all dreamy. “I miss a pale-green Buick convertible with Dynaflow drive. I miss a little beach house in Malibu with the waves lapping on the beach.” It’s a reference to his first months in Hollywood, before any of it began, and obliquely to Marilyn, whom he used to take to the beach house.
Mostly, he doesn’t dwell on nostalgia and claims he’s as happy now as he’s ever been. And he’s taking no notice of mortality. In fact, he’s looking for another moment in the sun. “So far so good, and I’m ready for more. My art will give me more. There’ll be more shows, and this book will open things up for me again. There’s still so much to discover. So I have to take good care of myself so you don’t find me in the gutter.”
He shows me a huge portrait of Cary Grant in a gilt frame. There’s a handwritten message on it by his hero, telling him he will be in for a “long, happy and enduring career”. He says: “Isn’t that amazing? Cary Grant. The movie star of all time.”
We say goodbye and he strokes my arm.
“My, you feel really good. You really are very appealing. Thank God the interview is over.” And he wheels himself into the kitchen.
Marilyn
The kissing scene in Some Like It Hot was for real. In this first extract from his memoir, Curtis recalls Monroe’s magic
One of the girls who came to Hollywood in 1948 was a very young actress, Marilyn Monroe.
I first saw her just walking down the street. She was breathtakingly voluptuous in a see-through blouse. Her beauty was intimidating.
“I’m driving into town,” I said. “Can I give you a lift somewhere?”
She had red hair pulled back in a ponytail. As we chatted I got a strong feeling of, well, heat. She gave off an extraordinary aura of warmth and kindness, of generosity and sexuality.
Both of us were aspiring to be in the movies. I had gotten my first break, and this girl was still looking for hers. She didn’t wear much make-up, just a little lipstick and mascara. I know it sounds crazy, but I noticed she had beautiful arms.
I drove to this little hotel where she was staying. “Can I call you?”
She took a minute to write out her number. For two or three days I couldn’t think of anything else. But I didn’t dare call her. It was too soon.
I figured a girl who looked like that had to be in a serious relationship. After a week, I figured enough time had passed.
“Would you like to go for dinner?”
A few nights later we drove to a popular restaurant on the Sunset strip. We laughed a lot, had a good time. On our next date we went to a club. Marilyn was wearing a floral dress, nothing fancy, but she still looked fabulous. I had the feeling that she was uncomfortable being seen in public. What I didn’t know was that Joe Schenck, the head of Twentieth Century Fox, had a place in LA where Marilyn stayed with him. Twentieth Century Fox hadn’t picked up her option, but Schenck sure had. Schenck was married, so during the week he’d go home and Marilyn would stay at her hotel.
Howard Duff, an actor, had a house down the beach just outside Malibu. He said to me: “Use it whenever you want…” I called Marilyn, we agreed to go to the beach. The sun was setting, and I was feeling a bit nervous. We went over to Howard’s place.
We started to kiss and fondle each other, but that was the extent of it. About 11 o’clock I drove her back. That weekend I asked Howard Duff if I could use his house again, and I picked up Marilyn at her hotel. We ate dinner leisurely. We had a drink and went out to sit in the moonlight. I knew something was going to happen that night, and so did she.
Around 2am we went up into the bedroom, and I took off my shirt. Marilyn made herself comfortable by stripping down to her panties and bra, and sat on the edge of the bed. She was magnificent. Her breasts were every teenage boy’s fantasy. As we began to make love, I could tell that this was not her first time.
Something about it just seemed so right. I was bedding more than a few great-looking girls at this time in my life, but I liked Marilyn more than any of the others. She was different. She was very fragile and vulnerable, which attracted me greatly.
Eventually our relationship began to take a back seat to our careers.
I started making movies, and she did too. I could sense Marilyn was looking for men who could move her up the ladder in Hollywood.
Frankly speaking
Sinatra was leader of the pack: where he went, others followed. He could be unpredictable, but Curtis loved being around him
Frank Sinatra was like the sun, with a lot of people revolving around him. As engaging and interesting as Frank was, he could also be antagonistic, quick-tempered, and dictatorial. If you screwed Frank, he took your name out of his address book. Forever. But I loved being around him. Sometimes he’d call and say: “Get over here. We’re going to run a movie.” So I’d get up there, get a drink or two in me, then once the movie started, often I’d fall asleep. When it was over. I’d wake up, and Frank would serve me food while I flirted with some of the pretty girls who were always part of the scene.
As a boy, Frank had desperately wanted a set of electric trains, so after he became rich and famous, he bought himself an elaborate set for his house in Palm Springs. The tracks ran through almost every room. While I sat there, in came the train, with steam whistle, running under my feet, under a table, through a tunnel, out of the room.
“It’s gone,” I’d yell.
“It’ll be back,” he’d shout. Then he’d run in, jump over tracks, and sit next to me. We’d sit, marvelling at his fabulous electric trains.
When I met Frank, he had left his wife for Ava Gardner. A lot of other people wanted her. Frank, of course, had bedded a whole roster of Hollywood stars himself. His appetite was relentless. But when he and Ava saw each other, that was it, and they got married in 1951. Unfortunately, Ava’s temper was almost as bad as Frank’s, so the two of them had a very stormy marriage. After Ava left Frank, he became chronically depressed — all Frank did was sit around and play his own music.
You had to know how to handle Frank. One night he invited Nat “King” Cole and me over to see his new hi-fi set. Frank was going with Lauren Bacall then (her husband, Humphrey Bogart, died about a year before). Frank was talking to Nat and me. Lauren Bacall came over. ”Frank, dear, time to eat,” she said.
“We’ll be there in a minute,” Frank said, and kept talking about the hi-fi.
Lauren filled a plate with food, and handed it to Frank. Frank turned it upside down, dumped the food on the floor, and gave the plate back to her. I think Lauren made the right decision when she turned down Frank’s proposal of marriage.
Hot property
Curtis was delighted when Billy Wilder cast him in Some Like It Hot — and thrilled by Marilyn Monroe’s bad behaviour
Shaking Billy’s hand, I felt like a prizefighter who wanted to be a contender. I just needed to get a big part in a Billy Wilder movie to show everyone I was the real thing.
Billy said: “I’m making a picture about two musicians who are working in a speakeasy during Prohibition, when the place gets raided. To escape, they dress up as girls and join an all-girl band.” That was the hook, the Billy Wilder touch that set this film apart. It would become Some Like It Hot.
Marilyn was perfect in the movie, but on the set she was a loose cannon. At the time Some Like It Hot started shooting, Marilyn had caused so many problems that some studios were refusing to hire her. From the start, she was difficult. She refused to wear the clothes the wardrobe department gave her. She demanded that she use only her own make-up. Her hair had to be the way she wanted it. We weren’t sure she’d last through the first week of shooting.
Every now and then she would simply not show up for work for a few days. Even after the first third of filming was completed, the studio was considering shutting us down for a week, recasting Marilyn’s part.They could have replaced Marilyn, but everybody could see that she, in spite of herself, lit up the screen.
She’d come to work late; she wouldn’t know her lines. From the time she got to the set to the moment she left, she’d go through 150 emotional changes.
Being comfortable was just not something she did very well, although she seemed to be having fun during our love scene on the yacht. We did that scene over and over, and I loved every take. When we kissed, I was on the receiving end of her tongue, and of her grinding. I had a hard-on all through that scene, and she knew it, which made her even more aggressive. She knew I wasn’t acting and when Billy yelled “Cut”, she pushed herself off me and gave me a big, satisfied smile. After the scene some of the crew and I stood around to watch the rushes, and they wanted to know what it was like to kiss her. I figured a question that stupid deserved a stupid answer, so I flippantly replied: “Kissing Marilyn is like kissing Hitler.” I was right — it was a stupid answer. What I should have said was: “What do you think kissing her is like, birdbrain?”
American Prince: My Autobiography, by Tony Curtis with Peter Golenbock (Virgin Books, £18.99), is out on Thursday. It is available from BooksFirst for £17.09, including p&p. Tel: 0870 165 8585
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