Fantastic and uplifting documentary. Sue's committment to her Mum is quite exceptional. Sue and Holly have made a wonderful and enlightning film but the absolute star has to be Ethel! She certainly brought a smile to my face and hope for those around us suffering from this awful disease.

Janet Cameron, Glasgow,

I was so moved by this programe. my own mother died in Aug last year and at times it was like watching her as Ethel reacted in the same way my mother did. i appreciated Sue's honesty showing a real mother and daughter relationship. warts and all thank you.

Anne Mair, sactness, shetland

No one can understand how stressful caring for someone is unless they have experienced it themselves. How refreshing to see such an candid, uninhibited portrayal of a disease that can bring out the best and worst in people. Sue should be congratulated on her honesty and Holly was simply wonderful.

Juanita Stein, Vegas,

Have people forgotten that Sue is only human? An only child, dealing with cancer herself, raising her daugher while managing a career AND caring for her mother! With all those factors considered, I'm not surprised there were moments when she cracked. I have great admiration for her and Holly.

Caroline, London,

i really found this programme touching - and if anything came of it i think it is the point that without having a laugh - Ethel, Sue and Holly would suffer - of course some people will not agree with sue's treatment of her mother - but i would rather have a laugh than sit pitying myself & my mum.

may, ayr, SCOTLAND

Was Ethel capable of giving consent to this?? If not then whatever the merits may be then this should not have been on TV.

Sue, London,

CERTAINLY some harsh bits, but under all the strain & pressure its not suprising. I dont think the relationship was bad/unhappy/agressive, it was just how the three of them are. Of course its different to how we may be.

I cried throughout as it reminded me of my grandma. To me it was BEAUTIFUL.

Francesca, Nottinghamshire, UK

Having watched the programme with increasing horror, I don't know which is more shocking and frightening - the fact that someone could treat their mother so badly/abusively - describing it as humour - or all the positive comments above, including from a 'carer' in a care home dealing with dementia.

Patricia, London,

I thought this documentary was sickening. Ethel clearly did not want to be filmed and put on a brave face for the sake of her daughter and granddaughter. Ethel would not have wanted to be filmed on the toilet, taking a bath and having to pretend everything was OK. This was abuse.

Jo, N. Wales

jo tomlinson, Denbigh, United Kingdom

I would like to congratulate Sue for her brilliant documentary
about her family. Every emotion came accross on camera but with the love and laughter between the three of them those bad moments were just blips of time that should be forgotten.

Can we see it again - please

cheyenne Webb, Bridport,

This is slushy alzheimers at it 's worst.....the daughter and grand daughter obviously had nothing else to do apart from "care"...my mum got very nasty with her alzheimers...i work and have 3 young kids but boy did i bust a gut to look after my mother who hated me obviously i had no time to film....

liz , ashtead, surrey

This was the most brilliant and moving documentary i have ever seen. Sue,Ethel and Holly deserve an award for this program.Although my mum is still healthy at 73, i have a teenage daughter with Downs syndrome who has challenging behaviour at times and we find a good sense of humour is essential.

Debbie, Liverpool, Merseyside

This was a profoundly moving. It is quite clear that the three women love each other very much. The film shows how exasperating circumstances can be but also how something positive can come from it. I think Sue and Holly have opened an important debate. Respect to all three.

Deborah, London, England

this film was not nice to watch,i thought that sue and her daughter laughed at ethel not with her,i think they should be ashamed of themself they had no respect for her,i know that i would never treat my mother like that nor would i let my kids speak or swear at there gran the way holly did.appallin

denise , aberden, scotland

I wasnt going to watch this ... im so glad i did !

It was an extremely thought provoking documentary , not to mention funny , moving , and at times cringeworthy ! Sues treatment of her Mother showed just how hard it is to care for someone who has Alzheimers!

doriens, Peterborough, England

I have to say, that I really felt for Ethel in the way that Sue treated her on a number of occaisions. She did explain that their relationship had never been good - but the way she dealt with her at times, was awful.

T Williams, Devon,

Like some other viewers, i laughed out loud, shed a tear, felt angered at Sue's comments, and had sympathy. As much as some people disagree with the way Sue acted, this is what made it such a truthful, brutally honest documentary. It shows that carers are only human, and will feel frustrations too.

Ashley, Kent,

My daughter & I looked fwd to Mum& Me.We are similar in age to Sue and Holly -our mother/gran has Alzheimers. We both felt Ethel was treated unkindly by those who should be protecting her- wld she have consented or wished to be filmed on the loo for TV & be told "you peed the floor".Very unkind&sad.

R. Walker, Edinburgh, UK

i think this documentory was discusting the way sue bourn humiliated her mother about her incontinence was really undigified perhaps one day holly might be makng fun of her mothers accidents. perhaps they wouldnt visit at all if it wasnt to make the documentory

carol, manchester,

What an incredibly moving documentary. My Mother died last year and Ethel reminded me of her so much.
I have to say how amazing I thought Sue was and a special mention for Holly who was wonderful with her Gran.
Alison, Berkshire

Alison Collier, Maidenhead,

thank you for sharing these moments with us. i was crying and laughing with you. Ethel, sue and holly are inspirational and were honest and upfront about the impact of this disease. i hope you are all still laughing through this hugely emotional journey.

colette quinlan, edinburgh,

Sue Bourne clearly loves her mother but caused her so much needless distress by her lack of empathy or insight into Alzheimer's. Watching her berate Mum for removing her incontinence pads was painful. Treating a dementia patient like this is as cruel and pointless as smacking a child for bed-wetting

Hannah, Newcastle,

A very funny and moving documentary. Sue explains in real life terms what is it like to care for someone with Alzheimers. Even though Ethel is missing lots of memory she has a wonderfull sence of humour and a infectious smile, Ethel's humour and sence of fun shows in her grandaughter, Holly.

neale simpkins, dursley, UK

i just watched this moving and very funny doc', and loved it,
i wasnt expecting to laugh and almost cry as much as i did, it was great to witness the love between the 3 woman it was very beautiful ,
a great film

Graham D, Wallasey,

This is one of the most intense emotional programs I have ever watched and I can only admire and respect you Sue and your daughter, Holly. I wish you much happiness in the time that you still have together.

Sean, London,

Watched this wonderful insight into the sad , funny , inspirational way the family dealt with Ethels Alzheimers . As someone who works caring for those with Alzheimers disease and also their carers I laughed and cried throughout the programme . Thank you Ethel , Sue and Holly

Allison, Ayr, Scotland

I work in early assessment of people with dementia, some aged just 50. I have 24 years` experience of people with end stage dementia. I found this documentary poignant. There were funny moments yes, and priceless memories of honesty that helped, and sometimes inevitably hurt, Sue, Ethel and Holly.

kate, angus, scotland

This was a disturbing documentary, my grandmother had this awful disease and not once did me or my close family, who cared for her 24/7, show a lack of respect and dignity like Sue Bourne shown in this documentary, making fun of her, speaking to her like this disease was her fault.

louise, Liverpool, Merseyside

Sue should not feel she HAS to drive down and see her mum she should want to!!! Were do Alzheimers sufferers stand if their own family can’t even give hem the basis respect and dignity they are entitled to??? After watching this I felt physically sick after some of the comments made towards Ethel!!

louise, Liverpool, Merseyside

as a carer, i'm looking forward to seeing something about the subject that is "just sweet and very funny".

Kamalpreet, London,

i think this documentary is absolutely appalling. not in terms of programme-making but the horrendous way this woman treats her mother on film. we hear about abuse of all kinds these days on the news, but the way sue bourne taunts her mother throughout the piece horrified me completely.

rachael ellis, amersham,